The people you surround yourself with can make or break you as a person. You are who you spend the most time with. This is such a true statement. All behavior is learned as well as attitudes. When you surround yourself with dreadful negativity, it will reflect on how you think, behave, and interact with people. The most successful and happy people surround themselves with people who exude a positive mindset. Positive energy is contagious and when the people around you have it, you will be quick to follow. So, how do you find the positive energy to surround yourself in the first place?
Cut off those who bring you down
It is very common to have a relationship with someone who is constantly negative or always sees the worst in every situation. Their world view is grim, and their interactions with people are negative and toxic. These types of people have no place in your life. It isn’t mean to cut someone off because they are bringing you down. Sometimes in life, you have to be a little selfish and take care of yourself. A negative person with nothing good to say is poisonous and you don’t want to get caught in the venom. You don’t need to be confrontational with these people either. If you don’t share their same negative sentiment, chances are you will start to drift your separate ways anyway. Ensure their attitudes are left behind as well. Another type of person who you may want to distance yourself from is people who doubt you and your aspirations. It is likely that these people don’t share your aspirations for success, and don’t want to see you succeed either out of jealously. This is the worst kind of toxicity and one that can become fatal to success if adopted for long enough. When people doubt you constantly, it is only normal to start doubting yourself. This attitude of stagnation and negativity should have no place in your life, no matter who it is.
Don’t try to fit in
Fitting in is something most people want to do. They want to be part of the “in” crowd, and have lots of friends. This is perceived happiness, but in reality is subtle emptiness. If you force relationships with people you have nothing in common with just to fit in because you think it might be a good time, you will quickly start to lose yourself. Don’t fall into this trap. Many people do all the time and the “fun” they thought they were missing out on turns out to be more emptiness. Being surrounded by people who are negative and people who you don’t fit in with have the same outcomes, bitterness, loneliness, and emptiness.
Stop trying to fit in and let things happen
A lot of the best things in life happen organically. This is something I have touched on a few times in this blog. Organic relationships things are the best. Trying to force something that isn’t there will cause more harm than good. The best friends I have today all stemmed from organic experiences. The moment I stopped trying to fit in and cut off the negative people in my life, I started to find myself and connect with the people I have most in common with. I think that the biggest problem when dealing with negativity and trying to fit in is conformity. When you realize that this idea is dumb and you become your own person, you will find more happiness than you ever thought possible.
How do I know someone is good fit
You’ll know when you click with the right group of people. You’ll feel better and more motivated to be successful. Surrounding yourself with positive people is a great support system, and is likely to guide you towards where you want to be. These people will pick you up when you’re down, support your ideas and beliefs even if they don’t agree with all of them, and back you through thick and thin. Having relationships with people you know you can count on is much more fulfilling than trying to fit in somewhere full of negativity and that you don’t belong. The people you surround yourself with should help you grow by helping you navigate through difficult situations in life and being there anytime you need them. A lot of people think it is impossible to find these sorts of bonds, but I promise you the moment you stop looking to fit in and cut the negative energy from your life, positivity will pour in!
Motivation and success
Surrounding yourself with positivity will help keep your motivation levels high and in turn reach the success you desire. Cut out the negative people and groups and let organic relationships form. Don’t force things and they will come naturally. Positivity attracts positivity so if you yourself bring positive energy, other people who share your same energy will follow!
This is so true Dominic!! Positive people is a must have in your life to be happy!! Negative people that always bring you down makes you feel bad about yourself!! I love reading your blogs, always makes so much sense!!!
Thank you so much!!